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| How to Start, Continue, and End Conversations |
How to Start, Continue, and End Conversations. How to start a conversation with anyone and anywhere without hesitation, it turns out there is a lesson about it.
The next question, how to start a conversation without experiencing rejection and how to end the conversation well? These are all the main questions in our mind whenever we want to start a conversation with another person or a person we just met.
The above-mentioned communication skills are very useful in our life as making friends and establishing friendships is certainly good and highly recommended. Is there a fun detailed technique with good practice examples that we can learn from?
How to Start, Hold, and End Conversations You Can Try
Last week I received an interesting book called How to talk to anyone without fear of rejection by Markus Oakey. This book is detailed enough to cover what we can do to start, continue, and end conversations with other people.
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| How to Start, Continue, and End Conversations |
That's all you can do without fear of rejection. Here's a summary of the contents of the book for you and me to practice:
Understanding Motives and Opening Up
The first thing to do as a way of starting a conversation is to clear your doubts. Self-doubt can actually disappear if you don't think about the end result.
Your motive is not to impress others, but the desire to always get to know people. You want to enjoy your time expressing your opinion to others.
In addition, you also want to hear their feedback regardless of whether they respond well or not. Often, you find it difficult to start a conversation because you are introverted and not open to new situations.
You are advised to always start by opening your mind first. After that, you have to start by believing that you are a fun person to be with and letting others know through your body language.
Start a Conversation
The secret to starting a conversation is in your smile and eye contact. Give the other person a natural, genuine smile before starting a conversation and don't start a conversation if the other person doesn't respond to you.
When the response has been obtained then you continue with a good opening sentence. The opening sentence may vary depending on the context you can see in the current situation.
Therefore, the opening sentence can be a compliment to the appearance of the other person, a statement about the current situation, or, you can give other polite attention to the person you want to talk to.
You can find opening sentences easily when you are in an open state of mind. Keep in sync with your body language and paralanguage and don't be swayed by instant responses because it's perfectly normal, otherwise people will react differently because you're trying to get into their comfort zone.
Keeping Conversations Active
After you've managed to get the other person's attention, then the next step is how you can continue the conversation in a relaxed manner, not running out of things to talk about and suddenly falling silent.
In order not to be like that, you must be able to maintain a balance between statements and questions. Most questions can lead the other person to simply answer and the conversation stops.
On the other hand, making a lot of statements makes other people feel bored. Here, you have to keep your mind open. Any response you get from the other person won't stop you. You have another backup to continue the conversation.
For example, you want to talk about the topic of animals, it turns out that the other person you are talking to doesn't like to talk about the topic of animals. You have to give a positive reaction and start moving on to another topic, and don't feel stuck and have nothing more to talk about.
You must be an active listener because what you hear can be the topic of your next conversation, here Marcus suggests that you imagine every word of the person you are talking to in your mind.
More Cool Stuff: How to Use the “Frame” Technique to Convey Your Ideas
Because that can come up with creative questions and other statements that will keep your conversation going. One interesting tip from Marcus is not to get hung up on the current topic of conversation. Use the technique of bringing the topic of conversation into the past or future and don't dwell on the present.
For example, you talk about the topic of animal problems. You can take the topic to the past whether animal problems have been around for a long time, or you can take it to the future in the hope that something meaningful will change when there is a natural fix. Stories like this will provoke the other person to openly share their opinion on your topic.
Ending the Conversation
End the conversation nicely and don't suddenly pause and leave the person you're talking to. Make the transition by providing a closing sentence. Closing sentences will be very effective when accompanied by reasons.
State the reason why you should end the conversation. Say thanks and praise to the person you are talking to.
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| How to Start, Continue, and End Conversations |
Well friends, my writing this time is about how to start, continue and end a conversation. Practice and practice at every turn will make you proficient. I have started practicing and have started to enjoy talking to other people.
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